Dear Wilbur,

Is it normal to lose your middle school friends when you come to high school?

Dear Fear of Losing Friends,

Becoming more distant from your past friends is definitely ‘normal’ behavior. You and your middle school friends are constantly changing, and some of those changes are in the opposite direction. High school has a lot of options, including new friends, and it is important to take advantage of those options.

However, staying on good terms with your old friends is essential. You should be making friends, not foes. If you are starting to drift apart, that’s fine, but maybe check in to make sure you both are still okay. If they aren’t, try to introduce them to your new friends, because your old friend might also want new friendships.

Remember to keep your options open, and shifts in your friendships are completely appropriate in this time of your life. Just don’t be too quick to give up the friends that you already have. Good luck!

Warm Wishes,

Wilbur the Wildcat?